The beginning stages of dating can be a torturous experience. And this experience can be even worse if you are dating a person from different background or culture. I recently experience with when I started dating an Asian women, which I had not done previously in my dating life. Ignorance towards social norms and etiquette requirements can result is some serious awkward moments and faux pas. Unfortunately most people do nothing to remedy this problem and it usually ends in disaster, but it does not have to be this way. If you make the effort to read up and educate yourself on the cultural and societal norms of your new partner, you can not only avoid the awkward moments but actually charm her and her family along the way.
I put together a list of four essential things you when dating an Asian. Hopefully they will help you charm and succeed with your new lady.
Parents are a nightmare
Asian parents will generally reject any man outside the Asian culture trying to date their daughter. The parents may even continue to try to set up their daughter with their friends’ sons while you are dating. This is very common and should not be taken as an insult. Most Asian parents have put a lot of time in effort into the grooming of their children; extra tutoring outside of school hours, prep programs, and weekends at Asian schools learning about the culture and traditions. A non-Asian with an unknown background could signal danger to an Asian parent and unfortunately that results in them pushing you away. If you are patient and polite, with time they will hopefully come around.
Avoid being picky
The classic stories of Asians dating dogs are notoriously discussed when a North Americans enter an Asian food establishment. Whether or not this is myth or fact does not matter, what is true is that Asians have a varied palate that is quite different from North Americans. If you find yourself out dinning at an authenticate Asian restaurant do not turn your nose up if anything strange or out of the ordinary shows up at the table. Try your best to try everything you are served, this will be sure to impress your date. Additionally if you find yourself around at her parents’ house make certain you eat what you are served and avoid any hack Asian related food jokes. The parents will find no humor in such jokes; however they will certainly like you more if you eat their cuisine with a smile.
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Get the Name out of the way
Nothing is sweeter than the sound of your own name. Unfortunately for most Asian people North Americans usually botch the pronunciation and spelling of their names. However if you planning on dating an Asian bride you will be expected to say it correct, this is just basic manners. Otherwise you can kiss that relationship goodbye. It is probably best to get this task out of the way first thing. On the first date ask the correct pronunciation of their name. Try saying it out loud to your date and confirm you are saying it correctly. This may feel weird, but trust it is a must. Come on think about, what if the love of your life did not even know how to say your name.
Take off your shoes
Asians are generally known as clean and orderly people. In some Asian school systems they actually spend some of their day cleaning the school. This helps children to be conscious of their surroundings and helps enforce the sense of community versus individualism. Ensuring that you are clean and orderly is a sure way to impress your new partner. Avoid making a mess in your own space as well as at your partner’s house. One way you can be more cleanly at both your house and your Asian partner’s is by removing footwear before entering the house, which is an Asian tradition. Outdoor footwear tracks dirt and debris all throughout house and can result in a frustrated for your partner.
The beginning stages of dating should be exciting and fun. This is completely possible when dating outside your culture or race. As long as you do your homework and keep yourself open to new experiences, you will be sure to succeed in having both fun and excitement.